One of the women I work with, her mother died the other day. A person driving way too fast, possibly drunk, hit her on the street in front of her house at 1 in the morning. And drove away.
I wonder who has it better- the quick death or the slow death? I get time to say I'm sorry, I love you and eventually good-bye. She got no time. I have to watch her suffer. Her mother died fairly quickly, not right away, but soon after. I sit by mourning her while she is alive, and when she is dead I will mourn her even more. She has only now to mourn, to grieve to feel pain.
Is it better to have someone die quickly- a band aid torn off in one rip, or to have more time?
I don't know...I just don't know.